a framework to understand loves and Love


About “True love”.

My friend Hahns once told me there was no such thing as fake and true love their is just love and it is unconditional. It makes sense. There is no fake love, just love. About the unconditional thing i wonder, if a mother loves his son but he become a serial killer, really? Does she keep loving him? Is there no case of parent who stopped loving their children? Just because they didn’t deserve their love anymore? But then I kept thinking and realize, Hahns was right, love is unconditional, a parent will always keep loving their child, it is their job, what they are made for. But they might stop expressing their love, for one reason or another. For many bad parents, it is just because their are selfish and start giving priority to the love they have to themselves over the love they have to their children. For serial killers’ parents, they will stop talking to them, cut them out of their life, because they need to cope, they also need to teach to their children,not everything is acceptable. But love remain, I am sure of that.

Love = right person + right timing.

My sister Selina also taught me a valuable lesson once. 2 lessons even. 
1) Love is not about what you feel for him but about what this person make you feel about yourself.
2) There is not such thing as “the One”. There is a right person for you at a right time. But as time pass and you evolve, the right person for you can not remain the same. Unless you evolve together in the same direction.

About Carole (code name 烤肉)

I work in tech since 2008, moved from Reunion island to Paris, Beijing, San Francisco and ended up in Berlin in 2014.
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