Carole in real Life 烤肉现实生活中

I’ve been a big fan of Sheryl ever since I read "The Facebook Effect" from Kirkpatrick. No secret I have always been a bog fan of Zuck and so when reading that this women had been highly recommended by an investor he trust (already she earn a lot of points) and that Mark takes his time meeting her several time, at her home, building trust and letting them know each other better, i was wow.

This women made Zuck, the most promising powerful tech mania of the Bay come to him and played hard to get. Well done Sheryl.

And the fact that Zuck hired her on her own term added pointed.

And the story of when Zuck invited her to the first management meeting and roll his eyes but call himself out to her after the meeting amazed me. The fact that she didn’t take him accountable, amazed me.

Ever since I thought, ok someone to follow.

So I couldn’t be happier when I heard she wrote a book about women at work and leadership position.

And even more when I glance at her talking about her book while I was at the airport and commenting that women have to hold back because smart women easy become the target, the person to kill.

I can’t agree more Always said it and no-one believe me. They are like "she is just bragging" and yet I have to say it half jokingly because you can not complain of being smart, right?

In China people qualified you immediately by your immediate appeareance. If you are fat theyc all you fatty (胖子）,if you are a handsome guy "handsome" (帅哥). It is not judgemental, it is just bluntly honest from them. They don’t understand (at first) that someone a bit strong don’t like being call "fat". They are like "what you don’t know you are big?". Maybe it is a reason why there is so few overweight people in China, they get the reality check very fast. In USA…not so much…politically correct obliged. But this is a side discussion.

Sheryl didn’t even mention in her book what it was to be smart and pretty. Because she is, and I am sure she got even more crap about that. But beauty is a very difficult to talk about in the USA. And maybe she knew she would not have been able to handle the criticism related to her physic.

Truth is even the prettiest women has physical insecurity. And I do think that women are most sensitive to criticism, we do are weaker. Generally speaking of course.

So kudos to Sheryl, hope one day I will have the chance to be mentor by her. I am probably not ready, not good enough yet. But I give myself a 1-2 year frame
You have to believe in yourself, and hopefully no offence for the twit I will send.

Stand up comedy oblige. Love.

I love this scene from New Girl when Nick – a guy who has a very hard time expressing his feelings – try to learn to be nicer to his best friend Schmidt by reciprocating the art of gift giving "Buying him a cookie".

The whole episode is build up on the fact that Schmidt -a very sensitive guy who has no problem saying I love you to his buddies- buy a cookie to Nick, knowing nick love chocolate chip cookie.
Nick get upset and all "guy-like" saying stuff like :"Whu on earth would you buy me a cookie? We are guys, guys don’t buy cookie to one another!!!!"
Schmidt get upset, the dispute escalate on all the other small things Schmidt does to show his love friendship to Nick all the time while Nick never do a thing.

Nick asks the other guy roomate Winston what he thinks and Winston side with Schmidt. He claims that for Nick "being a guy" is more important than being nice to his best friends.

So toward the end of episode Nick tries and buy a cookie to Schmidt. But doesn’t like cookie so he angrily asks "what is that?" and that is when Nick completely lose it. Great scene.

There are 5 ways to love: spending quality time, making gift, praising giving positive reinforcement, helping out, physical touch. But each person are more or less sensitive to certain ways.
And for instance people for who giving gifts is important doesn’t understand that the recipient doesn’t appreciate it more than that or never reciprocate. They feel that are not loved.

I am not good at making gift. Or remembering birthday for that matter. I forget my mum’s birthday, that’s how terrible I am. So when my roommate started making me more and more gift to celebrate our friendship I start freaking out and feeling like Nick:
"What to do to not appear insensitive, but at the same avoid looking ridiculous trying to do something I am very terrible at?"

Like Nick my first idea was to just return exactly the same type of present she made me. But than I felt dirty and non genuine.
So i thought maybe I should give one of my favorite things, a book. But then I felt like it would be just imposing on her something I like, not that she likes.

And I felt like Sheldon in the Big bang Theory: "Why on earth did she had to make me presents in the first place!!!"

oh well. I guess the whole key of love and friendship is also to laugh of the missteps we are doing. And instead of pressuring myself, I’ll just buy her something when I will feel like it is THE perfect thing for her. Or when I really would have something to make me forgive for.